Couples Therapist in New York City

Michael Vella, LMHC

Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Supervisor

Are you seeking a collaborative process of discovery with a focus on respect and empathy? Are you looking for a space to process your most challenging experiences, identify your needs and goals, and make lasting change? Are you looking to deepen your connection in your relationships? I strive to provide you with an empathic and supportive environment while also challenging you to expand your understanding of past and present experiences.

I have experience working with individuals and couples of diverse backgrounds, cultures, religious faiths, sexual orientations, and gender identities.

I received graduate training at Brooklyn College, with additional post-graduate study in individual and couples therapy treatment approaches including psychodynamic therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), emotion focused therapy (EFT), and humanistic approach. My belief is that an effective therapy is one that is unique to the individual and their connection with the therapist they choose.

Areas of Expertise:

  • Anxiety and Panic
  • Depression
  • Trauma and PTSD
  • Premarital and Couples Therapy
  • Alcohol and other Substance Misuse
  • Life and Work transition
  • LGBTQ

Experience and Education:

  • Mental Health Counseling, Brooklyn College, City University of New York
  • Couples Therapy Certification expected 05/2020
  • New York State license 007674

Click here to schedule an appointment with Michael.

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